I guess you know where I’m coming from. I don’t want to give you a recipe on how to make love. I just want to remind you that “afterplay” is as important as foreplay. Did you know that? It just means that a smooth landing is as important as a gentle and sensitive beginning. How crazy you get in between is really up to you! But remember that the moment of contenting and the moment of separating are incredibly delicate moments.

Much has been written about foreplay. But what is “afterplay”? Well, for more sensitive people, a quick separation after climax can be like dropping cold water on them. For many people a smooth landing is important for feeling safe and comfortable. Why not give a few more minutes to your lover after you both went wild and crazy (and hopefully had a few orgasms)?

After climax you want to ground yourself again. It’s a beautiful time when, together, you can consciously come to the end of this intimate meeting. Maybe it’s as simple as keeping eye contact while silently lying next to each other. You have shared wildness and passion, so why not the silence too? It’s like the biggest appreciation for your partner.

So please don’t leave your lover right after, maybe there are more gifts that you can receive from each other. And I wish you exciting and deep moments while exploring new possibilities.

What happens when the muscles are regularly stimulated? The body burns fat so easily; you don’t have to be overly careful about the food you eat. And when some of the muscle groups start to become active, your posture also starts to change. The body posture you have during the day also mirrors the same posture, or approach, that you have to life. That means with more physical movement and the resulting improved posture, you show a different attitude in life to the people you meet. We can very quickly sense by their bodies whether a person is sick or feels fit and strong.

The vibe you send out is like a magnet for the people with that same vibe. So choose carefully what kind of energy you project to the world. What kind of people do you want attract?

After some time practicing acro yoga I noticed muscles I didn’t even know I had. And I’m more and more curious about what my body will allow me to do. Stretching is also important. In Chinese tradition it’s believed that equal time should be dedicated to strengthening and stretching.

For me there are a few ways how to find the balance between stretching and strengthening. When I do yoga I don’t have to think about stretching because yoga builds strength and stretches the body at the same time. If I do another kind of sport I always find around 20 minutes at the end for a good stretch and five minutes for the final relaxation. Why is it important? Simply try it! It is like the dessert after the main course. And the second benefit is the next day you don’t feel muscle pain.

I love to look at body builders (I mean the normal sized ones…), but that’s all that this sport offers you. Unfortunately this sport is just for effect, it is missing the strength and flexibility. I believe that real strength comes from the balance of flexibility, strength and mental health.

Lifting heavy dumbbells may inflate the muscles but it does not build strength and flexibility. I know many men long for big muscles and a six-pack, but as I talk to women it’s honestly not the priority for most of us.

When it comes to exercise, some love to go on a long walk, some like to run and work out, others prefer to skate, or play team sports or practice yoga. I like a bit of everything.

What is the active part of your day? Maybe you need a sport buddy to support you with your discipline; I found that’s very helpful.

If you already have your routine, keep going. And remember that regular practice builds inner strength at first and supports us to feel good in our “temple”.

The physical effect will be obvious later but your improved feeling happens immediately. It’s such a pleasant moment when people start to notice this improved mood and ask you what is different with you.

I hope something you read here will be useful and inspiring for you. If you feel like sharing what’s in your routine, please leave your message below.

Introducing the Two Goddess Massage. Experience how we take care of more parts of your body at the same time. And as two women, we have two very different energies. Inside of each of us is a specific dominating quality that creates the flavour of our energy. You can sense this difference when you focus on each masseuse separately. And then enjoy the gift of diversity.

During your session you may become aware of the contrasting passions and skills between the two goddesses. You can choose any type of Tantra massage; just this time you’ll have the attention of both Bara and Barbara. Lucky you!

So if you’ve ever dreamed of sharing an intimate moment with more than one woman, then this is your opportunity to do it in a pure and open way.

Once you taste how beautiful it is to share intimacy with more than one person at the same time, you may want to bring this new experience into your own life.

We will initiate you to this ritual and gently take care of you. If there is something that your soul longs for, please let us know at the beginning. And if it corresponds to real tantric ideas, we will be happy to make that wish come true.

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